Wednesday, December 30, 2009
Monday, December 28, 2009
things i've learned (or confirmed) in 2009...
And the end of the year lists have begun...
- Whisky is a very good thing for a parent--Evan is your friend.
- Moderation is actually a good thing, too.
- Reverse psychology works on tweens AND preschoolers. Not so much on six year olds.
- Kids can actually get sick of mac and cheese.
- They can get sick of noodles, too.
- No matter how far you're running, the last mile is painful.
- Even though self-brow waxing seems like an amazing time and money saving deal, um, it's not worth it. Same goes for any other kind of waxing.
- Same goes for haircuts.
- Costco is not a money saving venture for this family of five, especially since I spend as much on impulse buys as I do on groceries there.
- AmazonFresh is my new best friend. When the delivery person comes to the door, it's all I can do to keep from squealing in delight that I got out of going to the grocery store. (Did you know they can do same day delivery, or if you order at 10pm they'll have your groceries on the doorstep by the time you wake up??? Oh, and that they will deliver Nobilo AND kosher chicken? Seriously...)
Wednesday, December 23, 2009
Monday, December 21, 2009
what's in a name?
"What are you going to change your name to?" I asked.
"Gabrielle. Or Gabriella," she says seriously. "I will answer to both of them."
"Oh," I say. I think of all the Gabrielles and Gabriellas I know and try to wonder who might have recently made an impact on Naomi. I'd really thought that we'd have until at least six years old before she protested her name. "Gabrielle is a nice name," I tell her, "but I really love Naomi. That's why I chose it for you."
"I don't like Naomi or Noemi. There's already another Naomi in my class. I want to be Gabrielle."
"Okay, Noems..."
"No! Mommy! My name is Gabrielle," she says adamantly.
"Okay, okay..."
So this afternoon when I pick her up from daycare, she runs up to hug me and I say, "Hi Baby, how're you doing, Noemi?"
"Mommy! That's not my name!"
At this point her teacher chimes in, "She changed her name to Gabrielle. She's been calling herself that all week."
I can't help but feel a little rejected since I'd spent so much time pouring over the name books and thinking about her name. I love her name. And Gabrielle is a really nice name. But it's not the one I chose. I thought she'd forget about it by now.
Any bets on how long this will last while I take consolation in the fact that at least my three year old is persistent?
Wednesday, December 16, 2009
Thursday, December 10, 2009
three year olds are incredibly responsible...
"Momma, don't get up," she whispered when I started crawling out of bed.
"It's okay, Noems," I told her. "I'm just going to start the coffee and I'll be right back. Save my spot."
"Okay, I'll do that," she said. Naomi loves a good job.
So I ran downstairs to start the coffee and then hurried back up to our warm bed where Naomi was splayed out snow angel style and taking up as much room as possible.
"Noems, scoot over. You've got the entire bed," I tell her. I think I was probably whining.
"Mommy," she says as she moved over, "I was saving your spot and I think I did a pretty good job. You could say thank you."
It's good to have a stickler for details in our family. We need one.
Wednesday, December 09, 2009
Friday, December 04, 2009
lego forgets half of their marketing audience...
Wednesday, December 02, 2009
let the festivities begin...
"Mommy!" She squeals as we were driving home tonight. "That house put up all those lights outside. Why did they put those up?"
"Those are xmas lights, Noems. That family celebrates xmas, " I tell her.
"Oh," she says, and then points to another house with lights. "Mommy! They have lights, too! And so does that house! When are we going to put up lights?"
"Sweetie, we don't put up lights. We're Jewish. We celebrate Chanuka."
"So we're not having xmas this year?" she asks.
"We don't celebrate xmas. But it's fun to look at the lights, don't you think?"
"I like the lights," she says, then pauses. "Are you sure we don't have a little xmas in our blood?"
"Yep," I say. "I'm sure."
"That's too bad," she says. "I really wanted some new scissors."
"Guess what?" I tell her. "I have good news for you. You don't need xmas to get new scissors!"
"REALLY?!!" If she weren't locked into her carseat, she'd be out of her seat. "Wow," she says. "I'm going to get new scissors!"
I hope it's always this easy, but I've got a pretty good feeling it's as easy now as it'll ever get...
Wednesday, November 25, 2009
Monday, November 23, 2009
it's been a long time...
Amy: I did that?
PM: Yeah, you did. That was fun.
Amy: Yeah, those were the days... Working is really ruining my schedule.
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Dear More...,
I haven't totally forgotten you and abandoned you. It just feels like that. I think of you often, though. And then, well, I am having trouble really getting down to writing anything.
I've started working again on a project I'm really enjoying, and am now working full-time, which feels amazing while I'm actually working. But when I get home to the dishes and after-school activities and the homework and the laundry (oh lord, the laundry), and the lunches (and you know how successful I am with those--just ask Tali's teacher), well, something's gotta give and lately it's been you. Hey, don't feel too bad... My Bejewelled score is suffering terribly, too. And you know, I've got this half marathon next Sunday, and um, it's been awhile since I've run 13.1 miles. Like, since last summer.
But after a month, I feel like I'm getting the hang of things. I love being back on a project and how productive it makes me feel. I love the challenges and the opportunities to find creative new ways to do things, and I'm really enjoying thinking about marketing and how people use, love, and hate it.
It's good to be back at work and it's so good to know it.
Apparently Tali was so excited when I started back that she shared me for sharing at school Nevermind that when asked what I did, she had to pause and then say "She answers phones or something..." She was excited for me and to see her understand how much working means to me absolves a lot of that working mom guilt. Not all, but a lot of it.
So I haven't forgotten you, Blog... Now that we're all getting used to my schedule, I'm recommitting to the things that I've had to drop in the last month. Be patient. And though I can't promise that the laundry mountains are getting smaller, I think I saw the icecaps at the top melting just a bit.
Talk to you soon,
Amy
Wednesday, November 18, 2009
Sunday, November 01, 2009
scary, not cute...
And even Naomi had a great time. She dressed up in her costume, and we took her outside for a few minutes to greet our neighbors (from distance! :) And when one of Tali's friends knew exactly what she was dressed up as (a Cheetah Ballerina Kitty), Naomi beamed.
And the thing about Halloween is that it really is an awesome community evening. There are very few other times when you can walk outside and greet your neighbors and all walk around together, without even planning it. I loved seeing all the kids dressed up and excited to see each other's costumes and giving visiting neighborhood kids tips about which houses give the best candy. We all belong to a lot of different "communities" but it's so nice to feel apart of our actual neighborhood, too.
It was also really interesting to see the evolution of costumes over the years. Sam insisted on being as scary looking as possible, and I think Naomi's screaming until she realized it was him confirmed his success. And while Tali wasn't quite ready to give up the princessy thing, she conceded with her own creation of Vampire Fairy. And by the end of the evening, she was just a plain vampire. It worked for her.
Though, I'm not sure any holiday is really a good excuse for culinary experiment of Veggie Jacko Burgers. Hmmm...
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Wednesday, October 28, 2009
it's official...
Wednesday, October 14, 2009
Monday, October 12, 2009
kids these days, or how i prove how old and out of it i am...
Wednesday, October 07, 2009
sukkahs are for sukkot, not camping...
Wednesday, September 30, 2009
Tuesday, September 22, 2009
just call me the meanest mom in the world...
It's part of getting into the rhythm of the school year, but also to get the kids into taking responsibility for getting ready in the mornings and getting their things together.
And for B and me, too, this has been an undertaking. Making sure keys, wallets, and communication is in the right spot, grocery lists are filled out, and that lunches are made.
In my unemployed state, I've gone completely OCD.
I've put a significant amount of time into this project. I talked with Sam's teacher and that unlike last year, this year I would not be driving forgotten schoolwork or books to school. I sat with the kids and made checklists for the mornings and evenings, and together we even decorated them with their fave characters.
We go over the reasons why it's important for them to take charge of their own things, and to take care of their schoolwork and belongings.
But week three of school has been our undoing.
Yesterday, Sam forgot his glasses at home and called me from the office at school.
"Mom, can you bring me my glasses?" He asks nonchalantly.
"Seriously, Samuel," I start. "Haven't we gone over and over you getting your stuff together?"
"Mom, I can't see."
Fine. I bring him his glasses. The kid can't see. And when I get to his school, his teacher confirms the fact that yes, he really needs his glasses.
This morning, I double efforts.
"Everybody sure their backpacks are ready?" I ask. Tali nods seriously. Sam hmmms and continues drawing pictures of baseball players.
And then not five minutes after their carpool takes off, I get the phonecall.
"Mom, I left my book on the table."
I see it, sitting right next to his drawing of Ichiro.
"That's not so good," I tell him.
"But the good thing is school hasn't started yet," he tells me. "You could bring it over now."
And I tell him no. He gets upset and angry with me. He tells me he's going to be in trouble. And when I repeat that I cannot bring it to him, he gets quiet. I know there will be consequences for forgetting his book again.
I know I'm doing the right thing. I know I'm teaching him something. I know I'm not supposed to be his best friend.
Too bad the right thing feels completely crappy...
Friday, September 18, 2009
manamana shana tova...
(and as our house is once again infected with strep, I'll add a little emphasis on the healthy part...)
Thursday, September 17, 2009
he's been around the block...
"Just around the block and nowhere else," I told him.
"Okay," He said. "Can I go now?"
"And stay on the sidewalk on the busy street."
"Why would I ride my skateboard on the street? I'm not stupid, Mom." And he rolled his eyes in that pre-tween way he's working to perfect.
And he's right. He's not stupid. He's actually a pretty conscientious kid. And at his age I was walking a mile on a busy street to the bus stop with my younger brother (and through sleet and snowstorms without shoes, blah, blah, blah). I remember once when my brother was younger than Sam, he got so angry at another kid after school (Or was it me? Selective memory serves me well) that he refused to get on the school bus and then walked the three plus miles home alone.
Nobody stopped him. Not the bus driver, the yard teacher, or any of the parents standing around.
As a parent, I shudder to think about that little kid walking home all that way by himself. Who knows what could've happened to him.
But the thing is, nothing happened. He'd felt confident enough to do it and he did. The biggest issue here was that it was a long walk for a small kid, but he wanted to do it, and that was really his own problem.
Last weekend, the New York Times posted an article about the anxieties parents these days have about letting their kids do things they did as children, like play outside the gated yard, walking to school on their own, or staying home alone. And while I was relieved to see that my paranoia and skittishness as a parent is the trendy thing these days (natch--we even get a lame term--helicoptor parents) it makes me sad that each small step toward independence is such a struggle for our kids. What's the point of having a skateboard if you have to ride it up and down the driveway and wait for your parents to take you to the playground? But events like the Jaycee Dugard case hit us all in our most tender nerves.
The article talks about a ten year old who, during his walk to school alone, was picked up by police who were called by a concerned neighbor. His mother had made an informed decision to let the boy walk alone because she wanted him to be able to develop the confidence and self-sufficiency to somehow grow into a full-functioning adult someday. And surely, a fourth or fifth grader, a kid only a year or so away from middle school, should be able to handle this task. But the deluge of media content about horrific events involving kids come at us all day long--news, radio, television, newspapers, blogs, tweets, and so on...
It's a struggle to let them get older and need us less. Sam's delight at making his way around the block alone seemed pathetic to me--for both of us. He has so little of that carefree ownership of his neighborhood that I did, and we have to think too hard to allow him small freedoms we took for granted.
After he left, I thought to myself that if he asked, I'd let him go around the block again. And when he came back, dawdling down the street as if he would take all day, I asked him how it went. He smiled and said it was nice to be alone.
But he didn't ask to go around again.
Wednesday, September 16, 2009
Wednesday, September 09, 2009
Wednesday, September 02, 2009
Tuesday, September 01, 2009
Monday, August 31, 2009
class of '89 is still mighty fine...
First of all, I was thrilled to see that my high school friends (all as bad at keeping in touch as I am, though really we had more in common than that) are all really cool, interesting people that I still really enjoyed talking to. And so even if we made some crappy behavior choices back then (think 4x4 Honda Hills in pitch dark after parties at Dom's house), we all turned out relatively well. And sociologically, how interesting that the people I loved back then are the same people I'd still want to be friends with today (if location and schedules weren't an issue, of course?) I'm choosing to go with the fact that sociologically, this isn't pathetic.
Tuesday, August 25, 2009
Monday, August 24, 2009
california, here i am...
Saturday, August 15, 2009
sick nunchuck skills...
Which got me looking at my resume. Again.
I'm a total resume updater. Everytime I do something new, I add it to my resume. But it's been a long time since I've really thought about the theory or resume building. Which is apparent from the comments from my Resume Expert in the critique he wrote about my resume (another perk of TheLadders.com). And the fact that he started out this way, sort of sets the stage:
"Before you read the critique, I’d like to give you a fair warning that my comments at times can seem blunt. "
However, to be fair, he did offer some very sound advice that resulted in my adding a new summary and highlights section to my resume, since those are fairly important because recruiters rarely spend more than 45 seconds perusing a resume.
But after many hours of working on said resume, and maybe one too many glasses of Nobilo, I wondered if if were true that recruiters only have 45 seconds, and if so, would they notice if I slipped in some interesting factoids into my resume?
SUMMARY:
Results-oriented marketing and content professional with experience in managing campaigns and projects that continuously exceed their goals. Strategic thinker known for innovation, creativity, and on-time delivery. Recognized for excellent communication, killer Bejeweled scores, and people skills, client satisfaction, and strategic marketing development.
AREAS OF EXPERTISE:
· Digital/Online Marketing
· B2B and Relationship Marketing
· Campaign Management
· Sick Nunchuck Skills
· Client Relations and Development
· Copywriting and Editing
Hmm... It takes all kinds of well-rounded multi-taskers...
Wednesday, August 12, 2009
Sunday, August 09, 2009
campsick, but home...
Wednesday, August 05, 2009
Tuesday, August 04, 2009
camp mail from sam...
Camp is fun. We get to do a lot of sports. There have been a few injuries, but Aunt Natalie made us some casts. Naomi and Tali got one, too, though they didn't really get hurt.
We tried to make friendship bracelets, but nobody could finish them because they were too hard. We did go sailing twice, and my dad made us call him Captain and salute him for days.
There are a lot of cousins here. We're having fun hanging out with each other.
Friday, July 31, 2009
camp runamucka, we love you...
We're in Madison attending Camp Runamucka, 2009 and we're having a great time, wish you were here, and aren't homesick at all yet, even though really we're pretty much the first campers here and camp hasn't quite runamuck yet.
Madison really is a great little city. The kids and I spent the day with Becky and Ben at Goodman Pool while Boaz and Dick took the architectural tour of the city. Then as a larger group we had brats, beer, and brownies and played chess with Playmobile figures. Tonight Becky and I may sneak out of our cabin to the local bar which is apparently only 32 feet away from her front door (location, location, location).
Unfortunately my camera seems to be broken so you'll have to make do with this stock photo of Camp Runamuck, though our camp admits girls as well, obviously. (Did you know that there was a tv show in the 60s called "Camp Runamuck?" Isn't it amazing what you can learn from Google?) But I'll hijack some photos from the Princess as soon as we remember to take some.
Wish you were here...
Wednesday, July 22, 2009
bye bye cable...
We've been looking to cut back a bit because recessionista chic is the thing to do these days and well, the not having a job thing is also quite a compelling reason. So the other night, I started going through our budget and redlining certain items.
First to go... The gym. It's true that just having the gym membership in my very own name makes me healthier, but I haven't stepped foot in the place for over a year, and would much rather run in the sleet or pouring rain than get on one of those tediously boring eliptical trainers. I put cancelling membership on my list of to-dos and feel good. I am a budgeting wiz.
It's easy enough to not renew my subsciptions to American Girl and Nickelodeon magazines since I'm not exactly sure why we receive them in the first place. But I'm not so willing to get rid of my pedicure of the month membership since, um, nice toes help me run so much faster. And so the budgeting gets harder.
And then I notice that the kids are watching television again. They've snuck upstairs to my room and have closed the bedroom door so that I don't hear them (because they are sooooo sneaky) and when I surprise them (booo!), they turn it off quickly (embarrassingly, I was guilty of the exact same thing at their age, but we don't need to get into that), but not before I see that they've been watching Hannah Montana, which is probably one of the lamer shows I've ever seen. I mean, how come Miley's friends at school don't REALIZE that she looks exactly like Hannah M. because she IS Hannah M.? Come on, tv execs, do you think our kids are stooopid?
"Why are you guys watching this?" I practically whine. And then it hits me. I can barely remember the last time I watched cable. Last night I tried to and couldn't find anything I wanted. This is the perfect thing to redline.
I let the kids watch the rest of the show and I watch it with them. It is slapstick, superficial, and totally age inappropriate for a six year old girl, though Miley is pretty and has cute clothes. Tali smiles when she watches her sing. It's sweet, but there are many, many years for her to watch inane tv shows and not only will nixing cable save some money, but also a lot of arguments.
"You guys, next month we're getting rid of cable. We don't really need it and school will start and then we'll be too busy to watch TV," I tell them. "Plus there is a ton of stuff we can do besides watching these shows."
"Like what?" Tali screams dramatically. She might have just seen Miley do that on her show.
"You are the worst mother EVER," Samuel says to me. He storms out of his room, flops loudly on his bed, and opens up a book.
Suddenly I have the very strong feeling that I'm doing the right thing.Tuesday, July 14, 2009
a day at the museum...
"Ewwww, exhibits," Tali whined from the backseat.
"Ugh, rock and roll," said Sam. "Let's at least go to the science museum, if we have to go to one."
"You guys," I told them cheerfully. "We're going to see the Jim Henson exhibit about the Muppets. How is that boring?"
"Ugh, Muppets," said Sam. "Old, ancient muppet exhibits."
Basically, I think the kids suffered from brief amnesia because the EMP is this huge, shiny, colorful metallic building inspired by Jimi Hendrix's guitars. It's been around for years now, but my kids are only just now old enough to potentially be interested in the place.
To get to the Muppets, we had to go through the Science Fiction exhibits exploring how images of space has evolved through popular culture. We passed by glass enclosed exhibits of all my old Star Wars figures, Alf, characters from Lost in Space, and Planet of the Apes.
The kids were mesmorized.
"This is a museum?" Sam asked incredulously. "Cool."
They had the model of the Death Star Station used in the fourth episode and we talked about how they could've used such a small piece in a film, but still have it look real. Sam stood and squinted at it from all angles, checking it out as if it were a piece of fine art.
And then we donned guided tours loaded on iPods and started the Muppet exhibit. They had napkin drawings of Jim Henson's early sketches, films, and best of all, a theater where the kids were taught how to manage muppets behind a stage using a televised screen and then they performed the muppets to a song.
Sam's fave was the Jimi muppet.
Wednesday, July 08, 2009
Tuesday, July 07, 2009
and i thought we were over the sleep issues...
Today while in the pediatrician's office waiting for Sam and Naomi to have their annual well-child visits, I browsed through a tired and dog-eared issue of Good Housekeeping from last year. Though I was hoping for some truly miraculous good housekeeping secret, I found an article by a mother who was talking about how she let her eight year old daughter sleep with her.
"She's only little once," she was quoted as saying and my first reaction was that this was very sweet. I looked up at my brood waiting not-so-patiently in the waiting room, fighting over the toys, and rolling around on the floor like small possessed animals. But it was a nice idea and I thought at that moment that the next time they tried to climb in bed with us in the middle of the night, I'd totally let them stay, instead of escorting them back to their beds, exhausted and muttering the mantra, "We all sleep in our own beds."
And then I read on to see that she only had one child and a king-sized bed.
And so I changed my mind.
Because even though I love cuddling with my kids more than most other activities, I'm rotten company in the middle of the night. And now that these kids are continuing to grow bigger and bigger and bigger, there just isn't enough room in our queen-sized bed for five people, and that's what usually happens when one kid ends up joining us in bed. And a Brangelina-sized bed isn't in our cards.
But hours later after reading that article, I'm wondering if I'll regret not letting them sleep with us once they're too old to want to. I mean, we have the occasional slumber party where we know nobody is going to get any sleep. And we cuddle in the morning, though that usually ends up in a wrestling match between Tali and Sam.
But I know that the time is coming quickly when they'll be embarrassed by our public affection toward them. And soon they'll be sleeping in longer than us (one can really hope, right?), and we'll have all the room in our bed that we want.
So maybe if one of them sneaks into bed tonight, I'll just pretend I don't notice. I think I may be the one with the biggest sleep issue.
Tuesday, June 30, 2009
off to camp and rock and roll...
It's just that this unemployed nothing to do summer has gotten itself very busy.
Sam is off to camp. Though, because he's pretty much the easiest kid in the family, life is just quieter, not less hectic. But even Tali says that she's totally bored without someone to pinch and fight with. Nice.
We spent the day last Thursday packing and gathering his stuff and while it was admirable that Sam wanted to pack his own bags, when I did my minor last minute check, I discovered he'd paid no attention to the numbers of items the camp suggested he bring. As in, instead of ten shirts, he packed five.
"Mom, last year I wore the same shirt practically everyday. I don't need so many of them. It just wastes water in washing them," he says, though I threw in five more shirts. And, oddly, when I look at the camp photos online, he seems to be wearing pretty much the same shirt everyday. What a sweet guy to be saving his mom the laundry and mother earth her water? Hmmm...
Also, last weekend I ran the Seattle Rock and Roll marathon and hit my goal time of under two hours at 1:57. I was pretty psyched and it was great to run with the group I'd been training with. There were 25,000 people running this race, but I think it was fairly well planned because it didn't feel like that many people.
This is us at 4am catching the shuttle to Tukwila, which for you out of towners is absolutely NOT Seattle.
Then, while the shuttles worked their way back to Seattle, we ran back. But it really was a nice route.
Here we are after the race. Note the team shirt not sponsored by Nike--just printed on their shirts. On the back we printed "Run like a Mutha..." which spurred a lot of conversation behind our backs while we ran.
"What's a Moota?" one woman asked. We didn't tell her that we'd used the spelling "Mutha" because Mitch didn't want to run with a shirt that said he ran like a mother.
Off to go send a care package like a good mother... Though at this point I'm sending it next day so that he at least gets it before he gets on the bus to come home.